My quest for a healthy lifestyle journey has brought me here
to share my thoughts, feelings, fears, commitment and my vulnerability with
you. I have struggled with my weight for a very long time, years actually. Like
many of you who have dealt with being overweight, I tried many ‘diet’ programs
with some fair results, only to regain the weight I lost again and again. Each
time I regained the weight, I felt defeated. I felt not worthy of more, I felt
stressed, I felt depressed, unhappy and I lacked the desire to try again. I
suffered in silence, not sharing my pain, which added to my poor self-image and
lack of self-esteem.
My husband has always been supportive and has always
complimented me on how beautiful I looked, I would thank him, hug him, but
inside I was in pain. To add to my discomfort and stress every doctor I saw
mentioned my weight. They would say, “eat less”, “make better food choices”,
“exercise”. Did they really think I didn’t know that? Sometimes, I would become
very defensive and ask the doctor if he had counseled his front desk staff,
because there was a lot of weight there. It wasn’t kind, but it sure made me
feel better.
So here I am. What happened? Why this blog? Why now? Something
big happened. I asked for help! One evening during a team group call, we shared
our goals, our dreams and our well-defined WHY. As I led this group of
wonderful women and listened to each one share their desires and goals, it
became apparent to me that I had to share my honesty. I had to share my heart
with this group. Oh no, I had to be vulnerable! I was filled with anxiety. I
thought, will they reject me, will they make fun of me, will they be accepting,
will they understand, will they think I’m weak? Oh my gosh, it was my turn to
speak. My conversation started with the things that are very important to me,
my family, my legacy, the freedom I longed for financially and my desire for
true health. Then, the big one came out of my mouth. I boldly told the group
that I had been successful at so many things. I do a great deal of mentoring,
training and I do my own personal development, but there is something I have
not been successful at accomplishing and that had to do with my weight. I set my intention. I shared a
short term goal and a long term goal. I told them I was 100% committed to
succeed and I needed help from someone to hold me accountable. Whew, that was
tough! I felt open, wide open!
Our call that evening ended around 10:30 pm (eastern) and at
10:45 pm I received an email message from Angela Middaugh, one of the team
members on the call. She proposed a win/win relationship. She mentioned, I had
something she wanted (business know how) and she had what I wanted (a wellness coach
& personal trainer). When we spoke by phone, the decision was made to begin
to work together. I told her I needed a strong accountability coach because I
may come up with many excuses and I needed someone who was going to be strong
enough to keep me on track. Well, I’m here to say, Angela has been lovingly
tough, encouraging, very supportive and lots of fun. We have developed a
wonderful relationship. We are helping each other achieve and each of us is looking
forward to a very successful future.
I started my journey with the USANA 5 Day RESET program. This
program wasn’t new to me. I have been sharing the benefits of the RESET program
with others for many years. I had done the RESET program many times myself, but
something was different this time. I felt different. My thoughts were
different. I felt excited. I was committed.
Dora
What changed for you, because I am in the same boat.
ReplyDeleteHi Dorothy ~ For me it was emotional, I was fed up feeling embarrassed, sad, discouraged. I kept seeing many before & after photos from many people online. Many of these photos showed the 'joy of success', It was a look I wanted! I thought, if they can do it so can I! So, to put it plainly, I was fed up! Dorothy, if I can offer any help, encouragement or support, please do not hesitate to ask. I had to ask for help & one of our team members stepped up and she has been so supportive. I would love to 'pay it forward'. Best wishes to you. Dora
ReplyDeletethank you so much Dora for sharing this with us. It was a very brave thing you did sharing your vulnerability with us. It takes a lot of courage to do so. You are very genuine and real. I am always learning from you. I did go through the difficulty losing weight myself. When the timing was right for me the mind set was there is was easy. I believe in you and know you will have success. Angela McAlpine you are amazing women to have stepped up and answered the call and need to Dora.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your kind words Michelle, thank you very much! Angela's support & encouragement has been wonderful! Sometimes, it's difficult to ask for help and I'm so happy I did. Angela immediately extended her hand to help and I'm very appreciative. I know Angela is only a phone call away when I need a boost, but the reality is, I need to take action. I need to remain focused, I need to keep my word, mostly to myself and I need to feel proud of the success I've been able to accomplish so far. I do and I'm delighted with the changes not only physically but mentally too.
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